Hi

After having some problems with Ron as I have recently discussed with you, I have been advised to have a female baby grey which may help him. I was advised to introduce them to the same cage over a few days. Ron is 18months old now, and has developed  a fear of me and won't come out of his cage. He is ok on the few times he leaves his cage and will sit on my shoulder although he is very nervous. This behaviour has come about after various visits to the vet and a wing infection.

Do you think I would be wise to have the baby grey?

wendy

 Firstly why female, and why a baby?  I find this a very strange thing to have been suggested to you tbh.  if a bird is nervous, yes another bird could possibly help him, but at the same time could make things ten times worse too.  I would say  you are better off concentrating on Ron for a while, I will go back in a min and read your previous posts,  but please dont rush out to get another bird hoping this will sovle the problems, as I dont believe it will, sorry hun 

 Wendy wherebaouts are you? Im wondering if we can get one of our ACO's over to you to see the problems you are having, maybe we can help. x 

Hi Margy

This was suggested to me by a breeder, and at the time it seemed like a good idea, but the more I think about it i'm not so sure. She said he would not attack a baby especially if it were female and I thought perhaps it was a good chance to make Ron's strange behaviour change and I really would like another bird. After Ron's many visits to the vets I think that is why he is so scared of me  and its heart breaking not to even be able to touch him. It was a lifelong ambition of mine to have a grey and now i am no longer able to work as a nurse due to health problems it was great when I had Ron.

I thought getting him some company maybe thats the answer, maybe not. Perhaps the breeder just wanted another sale, who knows.

Anyway perhaps a rehoming bird might be the answer, what do you think? Wendy

 The sex of the bird will not matter hun, and for them to say he wont attack a baby is ridiculous! If a bird wants to attack, they will, regardless of ages, sex or size.Sorry but sounds like you've been given some duff information there.  Personally I would take things right back to the beginning with your little one, I've got your pm and will pass details onto the ACO manager, see if they are able to get someone to visit that can help hun, see what you've done, and iuf we can bring things forward for you xxx

I agree with everyone else - Ron should be your first thought - it's clear how much he means to you. If he likes tidymix and hates Harrison's then why not let him enjoy it? Our 2 BL foster CAGs also hate Harrison's - Charlie especially would starve rather than eat something he dislikes. Charlie was a very grumpy, scared and unsociable boy when he arrived with us. Time, patience and love has meant that we now have a boy who loves to play with his toys and who loves to whistle and sing. It took us around 8 months to teach him how to go back into his cage and it took him 9 months to accept a new perch. He's a completely different bird now. I'm sure with your love, reassurance and encouragement when he makes any progress, you will get the old Ron back. Time is a great healer. If you did get another bird then Ron might feel that you're trying to replace him.

I think Margy's suggestion of getting someone else to take him to the vets is a great idea. He then won't associate you with the vets - only the treats and kindness that come afterwards.

Please let us know how you're getting on. x